Heightening the contradictions

At lunch a friend asked me for my take on the First Circuit opinion striking down part of the Defense of Marriage Act. He expressed some disappointment, which I’ve heard elsewhere on the web, that the ruling would only apply to states that recognized marriage. I heard some of the same complaints when President Obama endorsed same-sex marriage, since he said states would continue to make their own laws on marriage. At the time I really wondered what else they were expecting – federal troops sent in to perform same-sex marriage ceremonies, perhaps? That would do wonders for the movement.

A court ruling requiring all states to honor same-sex marriage is almost equally unlikely, and ultimately I’m not sure it matters all that much. I don’t subscribe to the fashionable belief among some liberals that such court rulings are somehow illegitimate or counter-productive. A court decision guaranteeing marriage equality, like the court decision striking down sodomy laws (which has yet to produce the sort of backlash these legal theories would predict) would probably produce a small backlash from those who already strongly oppose gay rights while accelerating the steady movement of public opinion toward full equality.

But I think a decision that requires the federal government to recognize all valid marriages in a state is an important step, not just for the families affected but for the entire country. Right now I live in Oregon, where gay marriage is prohibited by a misguided amendment to the state Constitution (although the state’s domestic partnership law gives us virtually all the same rights as a married couple at the state level). Ten minutes away, in Washington state, same-sex marriages are legal. At the moment the difference is not enough to make us relocate across the Columbia River, but suppose the IRS and the Social Security Administration start recognizing marriages in Washington state.  That creates a pretty strong draw for same-sex couples, and for any employers looking to hire gay or gay-friendly employees. Suppose a big technology company is deciding between locating in Oregon and Washington, and the latter choice will let it save accounting costs by treating all its married employees the same way for tax purposes. At the margins, these factors make a difference, and it’s hard to imagine Oregon voters are going to want to lose jobs just for the privilege of denying the word “marriage” to their gay neighbors.

The same dynamic could play out in New York and Connecticut vs. New Jersey, D.C. vs. Virginia, Iowa vs. Indiana, and anywhere that wants to attract young, educated, affluent residents, which is to say everywhere.

None of these things will persuade hard-core opponents of gay rights, but they are not the main obstacle to equality. According to analysis of the vote on California’s Proposition 8, the main problem is socially liberal married people with children, who generally favor gay rights but get a little uncomfortable about marriage. With nothing concrete hanging in the balance, those voters are more likely to think domestic partnerships are good enough. But when you can say the difference between “marriage” and “domestic partnership” is going to cost the gay couple next door thousands of dollars in higher taxes and lower Social Security benefits, and may cause large employers to locate elsewhere, the scale tips a bit more toward justice. It won’t happen overnight, but the resulting dynamic makes full equality almost inevitable for any locality in which people actually want to live.

 

The Bain-ality of evil

Take that, American workers

Job creator or super-villain? You decide.

I don’t actually think Bain Capital is evil, I just like the play on words. And there is a certain poetic justice in the name – if I saw a movie where the heartless, predatory corporation was named “Bain” I would think it was a little too on the nose.

But I don’t think Bain Capital is especially good either, even in a basic utilitarian sense. Bain basically reflects the way smart, well-financed people can exploit loopholes in the tax and bankruptcy laws to make large amounts of money. On the scale of business morality, it falls somewhere between Wal-Mart and Lex Luthor. It’s completely possible to believe strongly in free enterprise and still think Bain was not particularly productive or worthwhile for society as a whole, just as it was possible to believe in America and still think George W. Bush was an arrogant moron.

Thinking about Mitt Romney’s defense of Bain and President Obama’s attacks on it got me to thinking about Aristotle’s three pillars of rhetoric: logos, pathos and ethos. Aristotle was wrong about almost everything, but I think he had a good framework here: logos is the argument from logic and reason; pathos is the appeal to emotion (which is not necessarily less legitimate than logic; most of our moral decisions require emotional intelligence, which is why it’s better not to elect sociopaths to positions of responsibility) and ethos is the argument based on the character and credibility (or lack thereof) of the person arguing. President Obama’s attacks on Bain certainly include elements of logos (Bain reflects a disastrous approach to economic policy) and pathos (workers whose lives were ruined by Bain’s machinations), but I think the main argument here is one of ethos.

I generally discount claims that a candidate’s background gives them some special qualification for public office. Typically these claims follow the formula “As a former (insert biographical detail here) I know that we need to (implement whichever policy I or my party or my donors prefer).” So you get things like “As a veteran, I know that we need to (ramp up/scale back) our military presence in Iraq” or “As a mom, I know that we need to (cut taxes/increase family leave).” In Mitt Romney’s case, we find that his lengthy experience in private equity and venture capital has coincidentally led him to adopt the exact economic policy currently embraced by the most conservative elements of his party.

The reason I think President Obama has chosen to hit this so hard is that this sort of argument from ethos can be very effective in American politics. Even sophisticated participants tend to assume that wealthy, successful people know much more about macroeconomic policy than they actually do. Most rich people know a lot about their field but may know next to nothing about broader fiscal and monetary policy. They know they don’t want to pay higher taxes, so they are extremely susceptible to arguments for cutting taxes on high incomes, however dubious those arguments may be from an orthodox economic perspective. Beyond that, there is no reason to think that your average CEO or venture capitalist would be especially good at setting economic policy. (Ironically enough, Mitt Romney probably does have a pretty good grasp of macroeconomic theory but essentially lobotomized himself to secure the Republican nomination).

What the Obama campaign has to neutralize is the idea that Romney’s business background equips him to fix the economy. And the nature of Romney’s business gives him the opening to do that. If people come to think of Romney’s background as one of predatory, opportunistic wheeling and dealing (which is an accurate if not a charitable characterization) , then it becomes much harder for Romney to use the aura of business success as mood music for his campaign. And stripped of the rich-guy credibility, Romney’s argument amounts to “Let’s re-adopt George Bush’s policies but not be so gosh-darned tough on the wealthy.” That’s a tougher argument to make.

 

The pleasures of indignation

This is somewhat related to my earlier thoughts on the outrage treadmill (check it out – a self-referencing link. A milestone for my blog!). It occurred to me while scrolling Facebook for the joys and outrages of the day. Think Progress, which I usually find a pretty reasonable source, had a breathless headline about a woman being kicked off an airplane for “wearing a pro-choice T-shirt.” As it turns out, the T-shirt displayed the slogan “If I wanted the government in my womb, I’d f**k a senator” (without the asterisks.)

So I guess it’s possible that American Airlines – a company with a pretty progressive record on gay rights and other issues – harbors some deep animosity against the pro-choice cause and has a policy of harassing pro-choice passengers. That would be insane behavior on the part of a troubled airline that has no reason to offend or annoy at least half of its passengers, but I will concede that it’s possible. Or it’s possible that the airline was enforcing its stated dress code that prohibits clothing with offensive language. I think the latter explanation is more than 99 percent likely to be true, while the former explanation is less than 1 percent likely, yet the headline chose to present the drastically less likely version as if it were the only possible motivation for the airline’s action.

It’s perfectly possible to think that American Airlines overreacted or that the policy is overly restrictive or prone to abuse or what have you. Among my Facebook friends I’ve noticed a pretty stark divide between those with young children and those without on the question of whether it’s OK to wear that sort of shirt on a plane with families heading off to Disneyland. As a personal matter I would say that when you’re going to be sealed in a metal box with people of all ages and beliefs, a certain amount of discretion is appropriate.

But leave that question aside for a moment. The more telling thing here is that Think Progress didn’t put this up with the headline “Squares at American Airlines kick woman kicked off flight for having f**k on her T-shirt,” which was (1) at least as true as the other headline and (2) a much more plausible account of the motivations behind the incident. The reason, I suspect, is that nobody would have cared about that headline. Some people are uptight about language, especially around children. No one’s going to get their pitchforks out for that. But “Woman kicked off for pro-choice T-shirt” is a much better draw. Now we have a modern-day Susan B. Anthony being oppressed by the jack-booted misogynists at American Airlines. That will be worth a few clicks.

And that’s the part that bothers me. C.S. Lewis wrote a great passage once about the dangerous pleasures of hatred:

“Suppose one reads a story of filthy atrocities in the paper. Then suppose that something turns up suggesting that the story might not be quite true, or not quite so bad as it was made out. Is one’s first feeling, ‘Thank God, even they aren’t quite so bad as that,’ or is it a feeling of disappointment, and even a determination to cling to the first story for the sheer pleasure of thinking your enemies are as bad as possible? If it is the second then it is, I am afraid, the first step in a process which, if followed to the end, will make us into devils. You see, one is beginning to wish that black was a little blacker. If we give that wish its head, later on we shall wish to see grey as black, and then to see white itself as black.”

Human beings are prone to believe the worst about their enemies, even when it’s unlikely, for the same reason that human beings will eat an entire tub of ice cream rather than stopping at one serving. Righteous indignation is pleasurable. But it really can make us devils (or whatever the secular humanist equivalent is) if it’s not tempered by compassion, empathy and a genuine desire to be accurate about other people’s motives and intentions.

Ret-queering in comics

The practice of having established characters come out as gay or lesbian – for want of a better term I call it “ret-queering” – has been around for a while. In general I’m OK with it, when handled correctly, since it can nicely parallel the real-life experience of finding out one of your friends or relatives is gay. My favorite example of this was the character of Willow on Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Although I doubt that the character was originally conceived as a lesbian, the process by which she acknowledged her sexual orientation and began her relationship with her first girlfriend was handled realistically and effectively.

The article below talks about DC Comics plan to have one of its established characters come out as queer – which I don’t feel quite as sanguine. The problem for me is that the medium of comics – unlike movies or TV – offers fairly constant views of its characters’ internal monologues as well as their external action and dialogue. From the early “thought bubbles” to the more recent practice of extended narration, you pretty much know what a comic character is thinking all the time. So when a comic book hero comes out, we pretty much have to believe that questions about sexual orientation have never so much as flitted through their minds, which strikes me as false.

I suppose this could be solved by having the story occur on a parallel earth (Earth-Q, one assumes) or Elseworlds-style alternate history, but in that case the development would not be all that earth-shattering. If we can have Batman as a vampire and Superman as a Communist, an alternate gay version of Aquaman isn’t exactly a landmark.

Is Batman Gay? DC Comics Says 1 Character Ready to Come Out 

Reflections on straight white maleness

This metaphor is brilliant, and it helped me with something I have been trying to articulate during previous discussions of Mitt Romney’s privileged background. The basic idea is that, if everyday life in the Western world were a role-playing game, “‘Straight White Male’ is the lowest difficulty setting there is.” It’s not that I resent or dislike straight white males (being two-third of one myself), or that I think they need to apologize for their advantages, or feel liberal white guilt, or whatever phrase the selfishness lobby is peddling these days. All I want is (1) some acknowledgment that your life as a straight white male (particularly one born into an affluent and well-connected family) is in many non-trivial ways easier than the life of others and (2) some openness to the idea that mitigating some of the effect of blind luck isn’t some immoral campaign to punish you for your well-earned success.

A few years back some conservative douchebag set out to rebut Barbara Ehrenreich’s book Nickel and Dimed, about the working poor. The plan was to spend a year working low-wage jobs “without using his college education,” and by the end of the year he would have a home, a car, and money in his savings account. I confess I did not read the book because I feared the aura of self-satisfaction would cause me physical harm. But what struck me immediately was how oblivious the whole premise was. Even if he ended his year of slumming with a bank account full of cash, it would say nothing about Ehrenreich’s argument. First, he thought that if he didn’t list his college degree on his job application, he somehow wasn’t using his college education to advance his employment goals. But even the most lax college education probably gives its recipients some edge in verbal and math skills. Moreover, he would not even acknowledge at the outset that a good-looking, educated white man with no dependents might have a harder time than a middle-aged Hispanic women with two kids trying to make ends meet. It’s not the privilege that maddens me, it’s the obtuseness. No one is saying that you have to give back your land, but a modicum of humility and empathy for those who have not had your advantages is just common decency.

Which brings me back to Mitt Romney. It’s not that I begrudge the man his money, God knows it seems to be very important to him. Everyone needs a hobby. But I have never seen him do or say anything to suggest that he might not have made all that money if he had not been born as the favored son of an affluent white family. He might also reflect on the fact that his son Tagg would not be raking in so much money in private equity if his ridiculous first name were followed by “Rodriguez” rather than “Romney.” No one’s asking him to apologize for his wealth, just to spare some thought for those who did not play the game on the easiest setting.

To my Mom

Now that I am a parent and really understand how exhausting and scary it is to be responsible for even one other human being, I cannot help but be amazed that my Mom (and Dad, but he will get his turn next month) could have raised four children with such humor and grace. All of my life, through dark times and brighter times, I have always felt I had a vast reservoir of love and acceptance that I could tap into when I needed it, and that is a direct result of my mother’s unconditional love and support. That is not a small thing, nor is it universal. I’ve known people who did not get enough of that love, and it left them damaged in deep and lasting ways. The poet Philip Larkin put it this way:

In everyone there sleeps
A sense of life lived according to love.
To some it means the difference they could make
By loving others, but across most it sweeps
As all they might have done had they been loved.

 

My life has never been perfect, but I have never for one second doubted that I was loved. And that makes all the difference. Thanks, Mom.

Fairness and compassion, even for Mitt Romney

My friend Siva the media scholar posted something on Facebook this morning, and I found I could not stop thinking about the moral and practical issues he raises. Here’s the original post:

“As someone concerned about people’s ability to manage their privacy and reputations, I firmly believe that people in their 40s, 50s, or 60s should not be held responsible for things they said and did when they were children. That goes for Mitt Romney as well. There is no reason to believe that anything he might have thought or did in his teens says anything about his current character or morals. That goes for all of us.”

Having posted a pretty caustic assessment of Mitt Romney’s youthful bullying yesterday, this of course led me to re-examine my feelings on the matter. I believe we should treat all people, including my Mitt Romney, with fairness and compassion. And while I don’t think my attitude toward Mitt Romney yesterday was compassionate I still think it was fair. It’s not that I think adolescent behavior reveals some fundamental, immutable character. It’s more that the choices we make throughout life, and the ways in which we subsequently embrace or deny those choices, really do shape us. I look at Mitt Romney, not as a teenager but as a 65-year-old man, laughing off his physical assault on an effeminate classmate as “hijinks.” I think that tells me something significant about him. I think that a gay kid in Alabama would have reason to be concerned about this man being in charge of the Department of Education and the Department of Justice.

If we didn’t believe childhood shaped character, biographies would be half as long. In the 2008 election cycle I was very interested in Barack Obama’s multicultural background, which I considered a great asset in leading an increasingly diverse country. This year I’m interested in Mitt Romney’s extraordinarily privileged upbringing, not because I think it makes him a bad person, but because it bears on his ability to understand the needs of the less fortunate. Once we concede that personal background is relevant, it’s a practical impossibility to screen out the embarrassing and potentially irrelevant details. The best we can do is try to maintain perspective based on the total information available. The evidence is that people are fairly good at this. Not that long ago, revelations of casual drug use were a virtual death sentence for a public figure. Our last three presidents have either directly or indirectly copped to drug use with no significant fallout.

But even if the story itself was fair game, I’m also forced to admit that my reaction to the story was not guided by compassion. It was driven by a very human, but nonetheless unattractive, feeling of schadenfreude at the public humiliation of a bully. If you doubt this is a primal human emotion, go see any movie in which a bully gets his comeuppance at the end, and watch the crowd cheer. One of the few consolations of the powerless is the thought that their tormentors will someday “get theirs,” whether that means ending up in a dead-end job or enduring some bad press while campaigning to be leader of the free world.

 

 

 

Mitt Romney, creepy, clueless bully

Holding a kid down and cutting off his hair while he screams for help isn’t a “prank,” it’s an assault. And people who behave like that rarely confine it to one incident. I’d be willing to bet Mitt Romney has probably made a habit of mistreating people who (1) seemed different from him and (2) couldn’t fight back. The only reason he’s apologizing for that behavior now is that he’s running for office, for Pete’s sake, and understands that being perceived as a creepy bully might turn off some voters.

Second, Romney tells us “I certainly don’t believe that I thought the fellow was homosexual.” Apart from the fact that he sounds like a character in a Victorian drawing room play, marvel at the level of cluelessness in that statement. They held the guy down and cut his hair because he had long blond hair, and young Mitt Romney thought dudes shouldn’t have long hair. Has it never occurred to him, even in retrospect, that his violent reaction to men who don’t fit his gender norms might have some homophobic overtones? Basically his defense is, I didn’t bash him because he was gay, I bashed him because he was a sissy. Nothing to see here.

Evolution or intelligent design?

For the record I think the direct political effects will be fairly minimal. In the states where it matters at all, I suspect any loss of support among culturally conservative Democrats and independents will be offset by a bump in youth turnout, which is a critical part of the Obama coalition. The recent college graduates living in their parents’ basement could use some concrete reasons to feel good about the guy they helped elect. It probably also helps draw a contrast with Romney, who promises to combine the exciting social norms of the 1950s with the bracing inequality of the 1920s. (Romney’s immediate reaction was to call Obama a “flip-flopper,” which is just adorable).

I don’t think Obama necessarily took the position primarily to score political points, but I believe (and hope) that he concluded it would not deal any fatal blows to his re-election. A politician who makes major decisions without weighing the potential loss of support has no business being president. It would have been a great thing for FDR to run for office on a platform of immediate federal desegregation, but I doubt it would have changed world history for the better.

What today means to me

Today immediately made me remember the day in 2004 when President Bush officially announced his support for a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage. On one level, this made no difference at all to anyone. No one ever thought Bush was a friend to the gay community, although like most affluent Republicans he had plenty of gay friends and colleagues and seemed to have no particular animus toward them. And it wasn’t like I was going to vote for the guy, even if he had actually divorced Laura and married a man himself. The entry in my brain index under “Bush, George W., disagreements with” was already quite long.

Yet I was devastated. In an almost childish way, I felt personally singled out and insulted by the President of the United States. The message was that your family, your love, was such a threat to the republic that the most powerful man on the planet had to make a special effort to stamp it out. And not just in a statute, which was already on the books, but in the supreme law of the land, for fear that future generations might not have enough hate to keep the menace in check.

Cut to today. I know many of my liberal friends will have very sophisticated things to say about how it doesn’t matter, it’s a political calculation, it took too long, and so on. I don’t care. For almost my entire life, my fundamental inequality  was taken for granted, by politicians of every party, from Jesse Helms to Paul Wellstone. Today the President of the United States, based on his personal experience with families of every description, said that assumption is wrong. Don’t tell me this isn’t a great day.